Wednesday Group Minutes 09-15-2010
We had a very engaging group meeting last night, Wednesday 09-15-2010. 16 guys showed up to discuss the topic ‘Making a Plan for the Newly Diagnosed HIV’. We came up with these 8 steps; 1. Don’t panic. 2. Evaluate your Health Insurance. 3. Find an HIV expert (doctor). 4. Get a Case Manager. 5. Get a Therapist or a Support Group. 6. Build a Support Team. 7. Educate yourself about HIV. 8. Don’t infect anyone else. I’m going to incorporate these ideas into the Newly Diagnosed section on Making a Plan. Thanks guys.
We also talked about some other important issues in the first Half: I’ll cut and paste this comment I received from one of our attendees last night:
“Steve, the way you handled that meeting tonight is exactly why I appreciate more newly diagnosed men getting to attend PozAttitudes group. That was amazing how you managed to make a very complicated set of issues, ideas and facts appear to be very interesting and thought provoking. You took opposing views and merged them to compliment each other, like the topic of who and when to disclose. That’s so vital to discuss, and where else than with a large group of men on the same boat?
BTY, the whole discussion tonight about who needs to wear condoms the most – concluding that it would be the negatives couple – was so right on target. Gay men have such high libidos and testosterone levels, (I speak from personal experience). Any gay man after testing negative with his partner who thinks that there is always going to be monogamy is living on another planet. The three week window of high viral loads for newly diagnosed makes the point even stronger for safer sex practices for such couples. That why I prefer other positive men, less complicated.
Also, Thanks for pointing the big difference between getting a different “strain of HIV” and of “getting resistance to certain meds.” But, my biggest enlightenment of the discussion turned to the subject of disclosure. How interesting to me that some people would actually invest so much time, energy and effort by dating someone several times before letting them know their HIV status. How many hearts have been broken when becoming emotionally attached (which many gays do very quickly, guilty here) to someone who is just not available for dating a positive man.
Great meeting…let’s do this subject again within a year. The newly diagnosed may then have different outlooks. Thanks.”
After the break we discussed: Hepatitis 101 class on Sept 27, 2010 sponsored by LatinPride , In The Know HIV Expo on September 25, 2010, Israeli researchers developing a new treatment for HIV that actually kills the cells rather than just interrupting replication, ADAP waiting list, and a proposed Mad Men Mondays at Java Boys where we meet weekly to view the TV series Mad Men (need more work to get this going).
After the meeting, 10 of us went to Peter Pan Diner. If you’re there and get the waitress with the key around her neck, ask her what the key is for .
Next week, we’re getting a guest speaker from SunServe, Jim Lopresti to talk to us about what services Sunserve offers. I’d like to get a good turn out for him. SunServe is a great organization for the LGBT community.
Come join us
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