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A Book on the biology of sexual orientation.   Might be interesting.   Link to Gay, Straignt and the Reason Why

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The topic for this Wednesday 02-09-2011 is AIDS Humor. What is appropriate and funny and what is not appropriate and offensive? Who is allowed to tell AIDS jokes? What is appropriate humor for our website?

This should be a fun and funny meeting
-Steve

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Gay Test……

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Happy New Year to all. The topic this Wednesday 01-05-2011 is Breaking up is Hard to Do. When is it time to break up? How do you break up? Are there really 50 ways to leave your lover? Is it as simple as just slipping out the back , Jack? Or is there more to it? Is it just in our minds? Is it emotionally easier to be the dumper or the dumpee?

We should have some fun with this one, so come join us.

-Steve

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The topic for this Wednesday 11-03-2010 is ‘Accepting Change’. Tuesday is election day and we are going to be faced with change that some of us are going to be unhappy about. This is not the first time in our lives that we’ve been faced with change that we might not like, and it’s not going to be the last time either. Learning how to accept change and deal with it in an approporiate and healthy manner is a fundamental cofactor of survival.

Come join us in this discussion.

-Steve

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A video set to accordian music, and who doesn’t like accordian music!!! How could I not pass this along?

The Day the Homos Disappeared

-Steve

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Someone asked me what do all the letters stand for? To paraphrase James Stockdale (Ross Perot’s 1992 VP running mate) who started and ended his political career with this sentence; “Who am I and why am I here?”, Who are we and how did we get here? Is it GLBT or LGBT? What does QIA stand for? And why are some people changing our name to Pride or even Queer?

As usual, politics is heavily involved in these decisions. GLBT stands for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender. The Q usually stands for Questioning, but sometimes Queer and sometimes we have QQ to represent both. The I stands for Intersex where the biological sex of male or female cannot be clearly defined. Historically, this once was referred to as Hermaphrodite as someone that had both male and female genitalia. The A stands for Allies, as in straight people that support us.

So, who comes first, G or L? Maybe this article from DC’s center will explain the politics behind this change.

Once you start segmenting the community into letters, you end up with a dispute over which letter comes first. This has caused some GLBT-LGBTQIA community centers to rebrand themselves under an all-inclusive word such as Queer. This doesn’t really solve the problem either because many people in the community are put off because they feel that word is offensive. It is, but the logic is by embracing that word, we desensitize it.

Here in Ft Lauderdale, we’ve avoided that political battle by becoming The Pride Center. That works as long as people don’t confuse us with The Pride Institute, Pride Factory, Pride Mortgage, or call us to clean their carpets thinking we are Pride Carpet Cleaning.

We could pick a non-offensive word that’s all all-inclusive, such as “Gay”. But proposing that would make my career as an activist as short-lived as James Stockdale’s political career.

What do you think?

-Steve

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In September, 4 Gay teenagers committed suicide. Last week at the Wednesday night group, we discussed that those teenagers didn’t committ suicide because they were Gay, but because they felt other people wouldn’t, couldn’t or didn’t accept them because of that. Many of us shared our own expereinces and fears of coming out and the reactions other people would have. The question was raised, how can we accept our HIV-status if we still can’t fully accept our homosexuality. The psychological aspects of learning to accept being both Gay and HIV Positive may take on an added dimension in people who were infected with HIV sexually.

October didn’t bring any better news. In New York, eight gang members were arrested in the torture of two teenage boys and a man in an anti-gay attack. The victims were burned, beat, tortured for hours and sodomized with baseball bats and the wooden handle of a plunger.

Some of our leaders still just don’t get it. A week AFTER those attacks, in New York, where those attacks took place, the NY Republican candidate for Governor, Carl Paladino was still making anti-Gay remarks; “I just think my children and your children would be much better off and much more successful getting married and raising a family, and I don’t want them brainwashed into thinking that homosexuality is an equally valid and successful option – it isn’t” His written address went even furthur “There is nothing to be proud of in being a dysfunctional homosexual” and being homosexual “is not how God created us.”

Personally, I didn’t choose to be Gay anymore than I chose my race or ancestory.

When politicians hold these beliefs is it any wonder that gang members feel it’s ok to burn, beat torture and sodomize people they feel are threats. They’re just doing physically what Carl Paladino was doing verbally. They’re marginalizing homosexuals. They’re marginalizing us, you and I. I guarantee you that if those gang members were upset with those teenager for being Gay, they would have less sympathy for us being Gay and HIV Positive. And I guarantee you that as Governor, Carl Paladino will have no sympathy.

I suspect that we will continue to hear stories like this next month and the month after that. But there is a difference today. Today is Coming out day and there is going to be a candelight vigil. The Pride Center and Sunshine Cathedral are co-sponsoring this event. Today is your opportunity to stand up in a dignified manner and denounce those gang members and the political thought that we, you and I, are not dysfunctional homosexuals. We don’t accept being marginalized and most importantly we accept and embrace ourselves, just as we are.

If you’re angry, about the suicides, about the beatings and about those political ideas, then join me and The Group at the Sunshine Cathedral on 1480 SW 9th Ave at 7:30 PM tonight.

-Steve

On Monday, Paladino soften, yet reaffirmed his position. Asked about the “brainwashed” remark, he said that comment had “to do with schooling children. My feelings on homosexuality are unequivocal. I have absolutely no problem with it whatsoever. My only reservation is marriage.”

And yet he went on to say that “children should not be exposed to that at a young age. They don’t understand this. It’s a very difficult thing. And exposing them to homosexuality, especially at a Gay Pride parade, and I don’t know if you’ve ever been to one, but they wear these little Speedos and they grind against each other. It’s just a terrible thing.”

So is it just marriage you’re opposed to or the fact that homosexuals have Gay Pride parades that might expose children? Make up your mind.

“Mr. Paladino’s statement displays a stunning homophobia and a glaring disregard for basic equality,” Vlasto said in a statement. “These comments along with other views he has espoused make it clear that he is way out of the mainstream and is unfit to represent New York.”

Caputo disagreed. “The majority of New Yorkers agree with him,” he said of Paladino’s views on homosexuals and gay rights.

Polls have shown 58 percent of New Yorkers favor gay marriage, which Paladino says he opposes. Polls have also shown Cuomo expanding his lead on Paladino after the gap had closed last month to six points.

Paladino’s own personal life has been an issue in the campaign. He has raised charges about Cuomo’s sex life that he now admits are unsubstantiated, while Paladino is married but has a 10-year-old daughter from an affair with a former employee of his. He has also admitted to sending out obscene and racist e-mails.

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Florida Gay-Straight Network

Fort Lauderdale: Monday, October 11 – 7:30PM

-As participants in the Nationwide call for Vigils and Marches for LGBT Suicide Victims & Anti-Gay Bullying Initiatives, The Pride Center at Equality Park and the Sunshine Cathedral (a Metropolitan Community Church affiliated with The Center for Progressive Christianity) are collaborating to present a community-wide event scheduled for October 11, 2010 at 7:30PM to be held at the Sunshine Cathedral, 1480 SW 9th Ave, Fort Lauderdale, FL. Your presence and prayers can make a powerful statement.

The Group is going to be there. Come out to support Coming Out.

-Steve

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Four Gay Teens committed suicide in September
The topic this Wednesday 10-06-2010 is: Where Does Hope Go.

Last month four USA teenagers committed suicide. Where did their hope go? This question was raised in this sermon; We Will not be Silent.

Have you ever felt this low for being Gay? How did you get over it? How do you feel about being Gay? Do you tolerate it? Accept it? or Embrace it? Do you like being Gay?

Is there a connection between accepting your homosexuality and accepting your HIV status? Is there a link between feeling ashamed of your homosexuality and being ashamed of your HIV status?

-Steve

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