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The group is growing. The subject ‘Masculinity’ enticed 28 men to this discussion. This topic was inspired by a Workshop during the Gay Men’s Health Summit held here in Ft Lauderdale last week. “Taking a Second Look at Masculinity” that was lead by David Fawcett and Kristofer Fegenbush. We thank them for their inspiration.

We started out by reading the article Gay Men & Masculinity” from Out Spirit
We then went around the room and each of us stated a couple words that meant masculinty to us. A general consensus was that confidence was of most importance, but a few guys concentrated on the physical attributes of masculinity, big biceps, and buff bodies. Tom of Finland was mentioned. We then discussed these characteristics and how they personnally affected us.

At the break, I was surprised with a birthday cake with WAY too many candles, LOL, but I blew them ALL out. You guys really mean a lot to me. My life has become so much richer since I joined this group. Thank you.

After the break we discussed Donna Milo, the Transgender woman who ran in the Republican primary for Debbie Wasserman Shultz’s seat. We all support transgender people and although I don’t understand Gay Republicans, if you’re going to be Gay Republican be a flaming Gay Republican. But Donna is against Gay marriage. As a man, she married a woman and had 3 children. Now as a transgendered woman, I don’t know who she would be allowed to marry and more importantly why she doesn’t have the empathy towards her own community.

We then discussed new HIV therapy. In 2007 in Berlin, Germany, a man with leukemia and HIV had a bone marrow transplant to cure his leukemia. The doctors found bone marrow that also had the CCR5 delta 32 mutation which blocks HIV from attaching to the T-cell. The successul transplant “cured” this person of HIV. There is now gene therapy under works to see if this can be done without doing the extensive life-threatening bone marrow transplant. This study is in the early stages of development so don’t get too excited. But we try to report and discuss all new therapies.

At the begining of each group, I have a prepared text that defines the scope of our group. I then read a list of rules and ask everyone to buy into them, allowing anyone the opportunity to object. As a “peer lead support group for gay and bisexual men who are infected and affected by HIV and AIDS” I believe that we are inclusive, but realize we do exclude some people. The objective of this exclusion is to create a safe environment where OUR community is free to talk openly about OUR issues. At times, we have opened our group to people outside this scope, and we will continue to do so, but we will not allow a disruption of the group and its main objectives.

After the meeting, 10 of the group members went to Peter Pan diner to have something to eat or just share a cup of coffee and continue the conversation.

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The topic for Wednesday, September 1, 2010 is “Masculinity”.

The word comes up all the time in personal ads, you know; ‘masculine guy seeks same’ . We often equate “masculine” with “sexy”. At the same time, many gay men privately worry they are somehow deficient in the manliness department, no matter how much time they spend at the gym. So what is masculinity, anyway”? Here’s the link to an article on masculinity. This topic was derived from a workshop at the Gay Men’s Health Summit, “Taking a Second Look at Masculinity”

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Come join the fun and tell us your views on masculinity.

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