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Tony Needs Help


I really need help moving this November. I am moving 1 mile west from where I am now. NE 6 ave to Andrews ave.

I have major damage to my spine from a fall and I can’t lift or box items. I would appreciate any help I can get. If anyone has a pickup truck that they could help move would be awesome.

I am waiting for HOPWA to do the inspection before I can move in. I am thinking the weekend before Thanksgiving would be good because a lot of people are off that week and there isn’t anything going on that weekend that I am aware of.

Tony Fowler

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Happy Thanksgiving

  As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.  ~John Fitzgerald Kennedy

Let us remember that, as much has been given us, much will be expected from us, and that true homage comes from the heart as well as from the lips, and shows itself in deeds.  ~Theodore Roosevelt

We can only be said to be alive in those moments when our hearts are conscious of our treasures.  ~Thornton Wilder

Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way.  ~Native American Saying

A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.  ~Cicero

Got no check books, got no banks.  Still I’d like to express my thanks – I got the sun in the morning and the moon at night.  ~Irving Berlin

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I saw this in the March 7,2011 Newsweek and thought I’d share it because of its references to gay sex: Tennessee Williams is back for his Encore.

As one of America’s greatest playwrights, almost everyone knows Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, Streetcar Named Desire, Suddenly Last Summer, The Glass Menagerie and others. Or maybe you’ve just heard the lines, “relying on the kindness of strangers” or screaming “Stella”. His plays offer what he called “a prayer for the wild of heart that are kept in cages.” Angelina Jolie recently had that phrase tattooed on her arm. (she must have long arms). Williams was a pioneer of gay drama in America during a time when being gay was dangerous.

In a 1975 interview he stated “I see no essential difference between the love of two men for each other and the love of a man for a woman; no essential difference, and I’ve examined them both.”

But there’s a crucial twist in his writings about sex. Love doesn’t meet on some lofty noble plateau, they share the gutter. Nyphomania, rape, sado-masochism, cheaters, hustlers, gigolos, and prostitutes populate his plays. How could you not love his writings?

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David posted his experience with the LIFE Program, the World AIDS Day Vigil, and POZitive Attitudes on KosAbility, a community diary series on the Daily Kos.

Read David’s KosAbility dairy as well as the comments & then add to the discussion!

“…And for our last meeting the LIFE Program gave us a graduation ceremony. We had just answered the same extensive questionnaire we had answered before the program began to compare our personal and group progress. My low ones, Grief and Loss went from 19% to 91%; Trusted Support 23% to 100%; Depression from 25% to 91% and Life Purpose and Goals from 35% to 98%. My overall score went from 57% to 95% for all 26 of the co-factors. Amazing numbers I would say! The overall group total went from 63% to 78%.

But it’s not all about numbers. All the guys told me they noticed my appearance got better and I was smiling and socializing more at the end of the Program. I have to say I noticed many good changes in them too. I will miss my weekly Tuesday meetings with them.

But now it’s time to move on. I have a better outlook on life and a bunch of new friends to share it with. I have found a great group of guys in POZitive Attitudes that meet every Wednesday at the Pride Center and do other activities all the time. I have also organized my paintings, gotten a website for them and am having a month-long exhibition at the Pride Center for the whole month of January that came from encouragement and direction while in the LIFE Program.

It may be called the Shanti Learning Immune Function Enhancement Program, or Shanti LIFE Program for short. But to me it’s just all about life! It’s certainly made a huge difference in mine. I have one again.”

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National Policy Office – Washington, DC: 202-835-8373

Program and Administrative Office – Tampa, FL: 813-258-5929

For Immediate Release: 9.23.10


Media Contacts: Carl Schmid, (202) 669-8267 CSchmid@theaidsinstitute.org



The AIDS Institute Calls for Heightened Prevention Efforts for Gay Men

Washington, DC – Today, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and Prevention released data from a study that found almost one in five gay men (19 percent) in 21 major cities are infected with HIV and nearly half (44 percent) are unaware of their infection.

“This alarming new data provides further evidence that prevention efforts for gay men have not been adequate to meet the growing epidemic and should be dramatically scaled up if we are going to prevent HIV infections in our country,” commented Carl Schmid, Deputy Executive Director of The AIDS Institute. “The severity of the impact of HIV in the gay community is nothing new. What has been missing is an appropriate response by our government, at the federal, state and local levels, and the gay community itself.”

President Obama recently released a National HIV/AIDS Strategy that recognizes 53 percent of all HIV infections in the U.S. are among gay and bisexual men. The Strategy states, “The United States cannot reduce the number of HIV infections nationally without better addressing HIV among gay and bisexual men.” The Strategy also recommends, “Given the starkness and the enduring nature of the disparate impact on gay and bisexual men, it is important to significantly reprioritize resources and attention to this community.’’

“The AIDS Institute strongly supports the Strategy’s recommendations,” continued Schmid, “and is committed to working with the Administration, Congress, and both the HIV and gay communities to ensure the acceptable policies are in place, prevention research is conducted, and sufficient funding is available to decrease HIV infection among gay men of all races and ethnicities.”

Despite the long history of HIV among gay men, there still are only a handful of approved behavioral interventions for men who have sex with men (MSM) and even fewer targeted for a specific race or ethnicity. The CDC, by its own admission, has indicated its prevention expenditures do not match the level needed for gay men compared to other populations. Further, a resource allocation model developed by the CDC concludes that if the level of incidence in the U.S. is to decrease, more resources need to be focused on gay men and other MSM.

Next Monday, September 27th is National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, commented Michael Ruppal, Executive Director of The AIDS Institute. “We hope this day will serve as a reminder of the severe toll HIV/AIDS has had and continues to have on the gay community. We also hope it will remind governments at all levels to recommit investing greater resources and attention to gay men. Additionally, we hope the Awareness Day will remind gay men that HIV/AIDS remains prevalent in their community and they should take steps to reduce HIV, both individually and collectively. Finally, with so many gay men unaware of their HIV status, it is imperative for all gay men to know their HIV status by getting tested,” concluded Ruppal.

The study results, which are from the CDC’s National HIV Behavioral Surveillance (NHBS) system, were released in the September 23rd edition of the Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report (MMWR).

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We discussed the Don’t ask Don’t Tell policy and vote at the Wednesday Night Support Group. Current issues that affect Gay people are topical concerns for our group.

The Senate on Tuesday September 21, 2010 dealt a significant blow to efforts to repeal the ban on gay people serving openly in the military.

In a 56-43 vote, Senate Democratic leaders fell short of the 60 votes need to proceed to the 2011 defense authorization bill, which included language to repeal “Don’t ask, don’t tell”.

Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid of Nevada, and Blanche Lincoln (D-Ark) and Mark Pryor of Arkansas were the 3 Democrats that voted to block debate. Reid’s vote allows him to bring up the bill at a later time.

It’s possible Congrees could revisit the issue in a lame-duck session, that period of time after the November elections and before the new congress takes office in January when things are not as emotionally charged. But there is no guarantee this will happen.

More than 75% of Americans believe gays should be allowed to serve openly in the military according to the most recent ABC News/Washington Post poll.

We have a couple questions:

!. Why are the Democrats so inept at getting things passed. We have a solid majority in the House of Representatives, 1 vote shy of a filibuster proof Senate, 59 of 100 Senators and a Democratic President and yet we struggle to get the agenda passed that was promised to the people who voted these people in. Needless to say I am disappointed in this lack of leadership.

2. 13,386 gay men and women have been discharged under DADT since 1993. But the full name of the policy is “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Don’t Pursue.” “Don’t Ask” mandates that military or appointed officials will not ask about or require members to reveal their sexual orientation. “Don’t Tell” states that a member may be discharged for claiming to be a homosexual or bisexual or making a statement indicating a tendency towards or intent to engage in homosexual activities. “Don’t Pursue” establishes what is minimally required for an investigation to be initiated. “Don’t Harass” was added to the policy later. It ensures that the military will not allow harassment or violence against servicemembers for any reason.

Every one of these 13,386 people were discharged under the “Don’t Tell” portion of this policy. Not one person has been discharged over the “Don’t Ask” portion. Why not enforce BOTH sides of this policy?

I realize that this still would not allow gays to serve OPENLY in the military, but it would allow gays to serve in the military without being harrassed. Don’t ask Don’t tell was a compromise at the time, but it was never evenly enforced.

Enforcing both sides of that compromise would move more people to the conclusion that this was a bad policy and needs to be repealed.


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The Pet Project:
It is the misssion of the Pet Project to help people living with HIV/AIDS or other disabling conditions to keep their pets by providing pet care and ongoing support.

Here’s a link to their website:


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The group is growing. The subject ‘Masculinity’ enticed 28 men to this discussion. This topic was inspired by a Workshop during the Gay Men’s Health Summit held here in Ft Lauderdale last week. “Taking a Second Look at Masculinity” that was lead by David Fawcett and Kristofer Fegenbush. We thank them for their inspiration.

We started out by reading the article Gay Men & Masculinity” from Out Spirit
We then went around the room and each of us stated a couple words that meant masculinty to us. A general consensus was that confidence was of most importance, but a few guys concentrated on the physical attributes of masculinity, big biceps, and buff bodies. Tom of Finland was mentioned. We then discussed these characteristics and how they personnally affected us.

At the break, I was surprised with a birthday cake with WAY too many candles, LOL, but I blew them ALL out. You guys really mean a lot to me. My life has become so much richer since I joined this group. Thank you.

After the break we discussed Donna Milo, the Transgender woman who ran in the Republican primary for Debbie Wasserman Shultz’s seat. We all support transgender people and although I don’t understand Gay Republicans, if you’re going to be Gay Republican be a flaming Gay Republican. But Donna is against Gay marriage. As a man, she married a woman and had 3 children. Now as a transgendered woman, I don’t know who she would be allowed to marry and more importantly why she doesn’t have the empathy towards her own community.

We then discussed new HIV therapy. In 2007 in Berlin, Germany, a man with leukemia and HIV had a bone marrow transplant to cure his leukemia. The doctors found bone marrow that also had the CCR5 delta 32 mutation which blocks HIV from attaching to the T-cell. The successul transplant “cured” this person of HIV. There is now gene therapy under works to see if this can be done without doing the extensive life-threatening bone marrow transplant. This study is in the early stages of development so don’t get too excited. But we try to report and discuss all new therapies.

At the begining of each group, I have a prepared text that defines the scope of our group. I then read a list of rules and ask everyone to buy into them, allowing anyone the opportunity to object. As a “peer lead support group for gay and bisexual men who are infected and affected by HIV and AIDS” I believe that we are inclusive, but realize we do exclude some people. The objective of this exclusion is to create a safe environment where OUR community is free to talk openly about OUR issues. At times, we have opened our group to people outside this scope, and we will continue to do so, but we will not allow a disruption of the group and its main objectives.

After the meeting, 10 of the group members went to Peter Pan diner to have something to eat or just share a cup of coffee and continue the conversation.

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POZitive Attitudes is seeking volunteer contributors to blog and provide expertise in the areas of HIV-related medical issues, social & community issues, fitness, mediation, spitituality and other topics of special interest to GAY HIV+ MEN.

If you are interesting in becoming a contributor, please email us at: PozitiveAttitudes@gmail.com

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